Dear Abby: Son’s a different man after brother’s murder
Dear Abby Last year my son his girlfriend and two others were murdered outside a city where things like this don t happen My other two boys received a call to come promptly to their dad s home where it had happened My boys were the first to witness the bloody scene They called My son lived two days more In the modern day would have been his birthday His brothers witnessed something beyond imaginable My youngest now has isolated himself He has become a different person as we all have I m worried about him He was dependably a laid-back sweet young man Now his temper is quick and his fuse is short I invited him to come with me on a getaway for a meager days but he declined He tells me he doesn t know why he just doesn t want to be around people I know why It s because of what happened How can I convince him to seek counseling I withdrew from society too for about three months But I got counseling within that time I m lost about what to do Any advice would be so appreciated Living in a Nightmare Dear Living Please accept my deepest sympathy for the tragedy your family has suffered Because your son is resistant to the idea of counseling suggest that he might benefit from joining a advocacy group of people like himself A group called Parents of Murdered Children POMC provides emotional help to survivors of homicide and helps them to put their lives back together It has been in existence since and has been mentioned in my column before The website is pomc org and I hope your son will agree to check them out Dear Abby My -year-old granddaughter is dating a -year-old boy He in recent days confided in me that he has been drinking alcohol He revealed a place that doesn t check ID At first he stated it was one or two beers on the weekends Then he started getting drunk every weekend Now he s getting drunk during the week He explained my granddaughter is aware but I m not sure if she knows how much he s drinking They say they plan a future together and this is what makes the drinking so concerning I ve seen firsthand what alcohol can do to a family He says he won t become an alcoholic but I know it can happen without realizing it until it s too late Is there anything I can do to help these young people Other than the drinking he is a nice respectful boy Worried Grandma in Ohio Dear Grandma From what you have written this nice respectful young adult has developed a dependency on alcohol Warn your granddaughter about what this may mean for her future And if you can find out who has been selling alcohol to underage youth turn the person in Please Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
